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Friday, August 9, 2013

Lonely

Lonely and alone are two very different things.  There are moments now when I cherish alone like a rare uncut diamond.  It is unshaped and doesn’t look like much at first, but holds so much potential.

Lonely is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.  I’ve been there.  Many times.  You probably know by now that we have moved long distances 7 or 8 times.  Uprooting with no job, no built in community to be a part of is hard.  I’ve been lonely in medium size towns, large suburbs and cities.  Location doesn’t have much to do with being lonely when you don’t know anyone.

Lonely becomes desperation after a short while.  It doesn’t take much to push it over the edge.  Maybe it’s when you have to eat lunch alone – AGAIN!  Maybe it’s always seeing someone else run into a friend at the store.  Maybe it’s the failed efforts of connecting with others even at church.

I do know that the onus of others' loneliness often lies with us.  Do we only have time for our family if we live near them?  Do we have enough friends in our happy circles?  Do we not even notice the new girl who has just recently stepped into our own schedules?


I want you to look for that person this week.  How can you demolish some lonely for another?

Linking up with Lisa-Jo and my own Furious Five (minute Friday writers)!  Please let me know if you got that reference?  ;)

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13 comments:

  1. Hi! I'm your FMF neighbor! I really like how you compared alone with lonely. So true! And I also like how you turned the times of our own loneliness to be used to reach out for others when we see them going through the same things. Thanks so much for sharing!~Cassandra

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    1. You are welcome. Thank you so much for your kind words and taking time to leave them. Please come back any time. :)

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  2. We moved recently and I had so much anxiety about meeting new people. Those first few weeks were hard but God kept bringing people across my path.

    Thanks so much for writing about a very hard transition!

    xoxo,
    Sarah

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    1. Don't you love how God can put amazing people in our lives through the most unlikely, and often unwelcome circumstances! So glad you came by for a visit.

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  3. You get this.....you sooooo get this. xxx

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    1. I have a feeling you get this, too from your comment. I have friends and family who will never understand because they have never been there. Hugs back to you!

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  4. I'm happy to be your neighbor today too Amy! I understand that kind of loneliness. And it's true - it is often "cured" by stepping outside of ourselves and reaching out to someone else. Great Post!

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    1. Thanks. I honestly believe that many matters of the heart and mind can be cured by stepping outside of ourselves. it's not easy, but so worth it! Thanks for stopping by.

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  5. Dear Amy
    What a great idea for this coming week; deliberately looking out for someone who is lonely. Let it become a joyful habit!
    Luv XX
    Mia

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    1. That truly could become a joyful habit~ I like that!

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  6. I am slowly learn to realize the difference between alone and lonely. I have to say I am enjoy my alone time more and more.

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    1. Alone can be blissful at times, lonely grips your heart. I agree about enjoying being alone at times.

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  7. Yes to demolishing loneliness! Yes to community and sharing in the way God created me to!
    He's asked me to take some big steps lately...and it hasn't been easy, but I've been saying "Yes". I'm excited to be on this journey with Him and I can't wait to see where He takes me next. :)

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