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Monday, July 16, 2012

Soft Answers and Results




Something strange just happened(Sunday afternoon).  I was here in the office writing an e-mail to our landlord.  My adorable little boy came in to offer me a pretzel.  I declined with thanks and asked him to return to the living room to let me finish.  A few minutes later he returned with a Lego flower that was guaranteed to make me sneeze – which it did.  I asked him again to go back to the living room.  Finally, he came back hidden under his toy hamper bag.

Third strike.

I questioned him as to whether he’d been asked to stay out of the office, or not.  His reply – NO.  I then reminded him he had.  Stay with me this is where it gets weird.

I said, “My precious little boy, you know I love you and think you are wonderful, but I need you to stay out of the office and go back into the living room.”

His reply – “Okay”

And he did.

And he hasn’t been back in here giving me time to finish the email, read a blog post and write this!  Wow!  The phrase “a soft answer turns away wrath” comes to mind also, “you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar”.  

I think I’m a hard, vinegar momma at times.  And you know what?  I get wrathful answers from a fly.  Not really, but you get my point.

I needed to write down this success as a reminder and positive reinforcer to myself.  My words and tone really do affect my little guy as much as any mood or state he may be in temporarily. 
Now if I can just remember this!



I've linked this up with Mary Beth over at New Life Steward for WIP Wednesday.  Seemed fitting since this is all about being a Work in Progress.  Hop over, check out her blog and all the others who have linked up and show some love.  Thanks.

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10 comments:

  1. YES! Oh, it has taken me way too long to learn this, but it amazes me the difference when I speak rationally, calmly, softly! I need to remember it too.
    Celebrating with you!!!!!!

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    1. Thank you!! I should keep this up for a week just to remind myself! Why is it so hard?

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  2. I can totally relate! Thank you so much for the reminder. And YAY!! for you!

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    1. Yay for Max, too! I guess the saying "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" really is true.

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  3. Thanks for the words of wisdom! I definitely relate with my two young ones, and I love the verse correlation: A soft answer does turn away wrath.

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    1. Thanks for your empathy. I wish I had this on a heads up display in front of my eyes all the time.

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  4. Very nice! Great lesson for all of us. Not just Mommas and boys.... Thanks for visiting too!

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    1. Seems to be easier to apply to those a little beyond arm's reach. Thanks for visiting. I really enjoyed your identity post.

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  5. I have to remind myself often to lower my tone! Speak softly! Its a learning process!

    Thanks for linking up and the sweet shout out at the end! You went over and above!

    Mary Beth

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    1. I wish I kept doing the things I've learned instead of having to learn them over and over again. You are totally welcome to anybody I can send your way!

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